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We all know the basics of how to keep a relationship going, as it is mainly just plain common sense, but when you add alcohol into the equation then it’s not so straight forward. Alcohol is an illness that spreads throughout the family even though some members might not even touch the stuff. A recent poll carried out did in fact suggest that family relationships along with the presence of alcohol in the family home caused family rifting in 95% of cases. Do you happen to be one of those cases?

The key to stopping alcohol ruining your family relationship is to spot the problem straight away. If somebody is dependent on alcohol it doesn’t just happen over night, as it is a gradual process and people slowly become alcohol dependent. The problem arises when the problem is spotted as a problem, as then it is probably too late for them to take the problem seriously and just opens the door to another alcoholic dysfunctional family.

It is very common for dysfunctional families to deny the existence of any alcoholic problems. You’ll find that they usually develop a number of different behaviors which gives them an illusion that drinking alcohol is not affecting their family. You’ll also notice that they start telling lies saying they are working late when they are really stopping off at the pub for a drink.

Strangely enough although maintaining the same behaviour pattern, a partner will even lie for their drunk other half when it comes to giving excuses for not attending work etc. If children are involved then no doubt their school work will be affected in a negative sense, due to the presence of alcohol in the family home.

The pain and suffering for the whole family will just continue and get worse unless the problem is confronted by the alcoholic. To deny the problem will just prolong the agony of a family that is heading for disaster. The alcoholic will one day realise that he is hurting the people that most love him, and that will be the day that things will at last begin to change.

It is completely wrong to cover up for an alcoholic partner as you are in a way preventing them from getting the help that they really need for a better life. You see no one else would cover up for them, and just suppose that you were the alcoholic…would you want someone to help you?

There is plenty of help and support on the internet and you’ll find most of it is really helpful, I have come across some awesome sites which have great support, they are stopdrinkingadvice.org (they have helped over two thousand people conquer their alcoholism), plus they also have a great newsletter which is well worth signing up for. The other sites are AA and Talk To Frank, but remember that you’re not alone!

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